The best way to know your photographer before your wedding
Why an engagement session?
The engagement session is offered in every wedding photography package. It allows us to better know each other. So the day of your wedding, I will not be a stranger anymore. So it is quite a stress relief! Thanks to your engagement session experience, you will feel more comfortable with me and in front of the camera. You will also understand more easily what to do (and especially not to do)! So the results will be much better the day of your wedding!
Where does the engagement session take place?
Mostly outside. It has to be in a place you like and where you feel comfortable.
It is better somewhere with not too many people, with a beautiful landscape and lot of natural light. It could be next to a lake, to a river, on a beach, next to the castle, on your granddad’s field, on the top of a mountain, on a rooftop, or in the Twin Cities downtown. Or you can choose a more unexpected place: a ranch with horses, a street full of graffiti, a museum, an opera, etc. Check the photo session location if you need ideas where to do your engagement session.
When does the engagement session take place?
It could take place months before your wedding, or a few days before. There exists no rule. Nevertheless most of couples chose to do it severals months before in order to confirm their choice regarding the photographer. If you have the time I would suggest a warm month with leaves on trees. If you need the pictures during winter there is options!
Use Your Engagement Session’s Pictures
If you do it a long time before, you can use pictures of your engagement session to design your save-the-date card. You can also use pictures to make a projection the D-Day.
How should we dress for the engagement session?
Here again, there exists no rule. Most of the couples are dressed with casual (up graded) clothes. Of course I strongly recommend that you coordinate tones (read bellow).
However, some couples want to be dressed in a more sophisticated way with beautiful and elegant dress and suite. And, some other couples use a wedding dress and a wedding suit. —This last case happens quite often with Asian couples, easily allowed by the cheapest price of Chinese dresses—.
Clothes define your identity
I will chose your close, whereas you are more traditional, more chic, more romantic, more bohemian, rockier, biker, more rebels or more eccentric. Clothes create your style, so it means something. So if you have clothes you really like to wear, even if it does not seem to be “engagement session clothes”, don’t be afraid to bring them. That is what will make your engagement look like who you are.
Here a quick list of tips for your clothes selection:
Clothes to avoid for your session
Some clothes won’t help you to have good engagement pictures. I have blacklisted them bellow. Of course, if that is part of your story that could make sens to have some during the session (exemple: you are two athlete). So, try to avoid:
- sport wear
- sport shoes
- loose pants , sweat pants
- down jacket
- pyjama style
- funeral and/or grand mother clothes :p
- hunting or military clothes
- glasses that turn sunglasses with sun
Material is king
The material composing your clothes is important. Indeed material tells story. Wools, is warm and soft, it’s a noble material, while blue jean is rough and cheap material (who became fashion lately).
Also, try to avoid imitation material, like fake leather. Sometime it’s hard to see the difference, but some time you can “fill” the difference looking at the images. A real cashmere pullover will looks better that an a cotton one. And a real cotton sweater will look better than a synthetic one. An authentic fur coat will looks better than a fake one (even if for fur, there is today some very good imitation). Anyway, Material is important!
What Colors for your engagement session
About Neutral colors
The definition of a neutral color is all nuance of grey your have between the black to the white.
First, avoid to wear only neutrals colors. Always add some touch of colors!
Second, neutral colors works almost all the time in addition with any other color.
Coordinate and Complementary Colors
The key is to play with complementary colors to match and adjust contrast.
An easy way, is to chose 2 complementary colors and add a neutral color, or 1 color and two split complementary ones.
If you have forgotten all that, have a look here: https://lifehacker.com/learn-the-basics-of-color-theory-to-know-what-looks-goo-1608972072
An amazing tools to help you is the Color Wheel from Adobe. Choosing complementary colors. https://color.adobe.com/fr/create/color-wheel
Chose your color tones regarding the weather and location
Given we will probably be outside, take in consideration the season. Some colors works better in winter or during summer.
In winter, touch a warm muted colors works great (light/dark yellow, light / dark orange, brown, dark red, and all pastel in between). The warm color (yellow-red) will contrast with the cold white/blue/dark colors of winter and snow.
On the contrary some clear pure saturated colors (blue, red, green) will work better in Summer than in Winter.
Same idea with the location you chose, take in consideration its colors to chose yours!
If you chose a street with some brown brick wall, then play with dark brown, muted warm color and a touch of a cold color.
Avoid too flashy colors, or not
Sometimes too much color (and especially flashy and fluorescent color), can take too much place in the pictures.
Indeed, the goal of the color is to bring a warm atmosphere, but it should not turn the attention from you. It does not mean that you should absolutely avoid colors or flashy colors! For exemple, a nice red open night dress, would work great.
Avoid dark tones for bad weather
A cloudy day will make the thing look like dull. So, I strongly suggest that you avoid all dark tones during bad weather, and that you prefer bright colors (like white, or pastel color).
Avoid clothes with patterns
Pattern can very quickly catch all the attention (like flashy colors). So you may love this beautiful dress with colored birds, but avoid patterns for your photo session!
Clothes and wind
Winds blowing through a dress can be very beautiful and elegant. So if you have a long prom dress (that doesn’t look too much princess dress), please bring it!! Light clothes that take the wind will create pictures with more dynamism, more dramatic, more majestic.
You can bring several outfits
Engagement session is not a fashion show. Nevertheless you can easily bring 2 outfits (or 3 but not more).
Clothes that fit you
That is pretty obvious! Chose some clothes that really fit you, and make your body looks great. If you bring clothes that are too tall, too small, or just don’t match with the shape of your body… well, we will notice it on the pictures.
If you are a plump
If you are a plump, take advantage of it and show you curves! Curves are beautiful! Specially if you have some larges hips, use the contrast with your waist. And don’t be afraid to show your arms.
In other words, hiding your body with large clothes will probably deserve you.
The way you wear your clothes
It’s pretty obvious to, but sometime you are so stress that you don’t think about that (specially guys). Some clothes could be wear in different ways, and some ways are more cool and relaxe than other ones.
For exemple if you are wearing a shirt, don’t button the top button, and roll up your sleeves to look like more relaxe!
Accessories can help styling your engagement pictures. The one you can hold will give you something to do.
So, fell free to bring
- sun glass
- special shoes
- bouquet of flowers
- fur coat, fur hat, fur scarf (in winter)
Other Engagement session Props
Fell free to bring any props you want to personnalise some pictures.
- Funny props. It could be some funny props to make a funny pictures (ex funny sun glasses, an animal mask).
- Message: It could be a card, or a panel for your save the date, some letters (ex: the scrabble ones).
- Glitter If you like glitters and confetti bring some, we can make a funny picture.
- Soap bubbles works great!
- Smoke bombs
- Sparklers (for night or dark location)
- ballon bouquet! It’s a must. Bring a bunch of helium filled ballon for a poetic touch!
- If you smoke (and are not afraid that your parents discover it), feel free to smoke during the engagement session. Even if t’s not always politically correct, it sometimes turn pretty will in images.
- A bottle of champagne and glasses to share with at the top of the mountain
- Blanket ( to keep you warm, or to set on).
- An old and amazing American car or motorcycle (that we can use as background). A special cab.
- If you share an activity, something that remember this activity (ex : golf club)
Heels or not hells?
Heels usually help to shape a nice body. But the most important is that you feel comfortable in your choses! If there is some choses with heels you want to use (with your prom dress) then bring them!
Take in consideration: Usually the man is higher than his wife (on the pictures it provides the guy a protective figure). So I you have the same size as your fiancé, wearing 10 inches high-heels is maybe not the best idea.
Include animal in your engagement session
Pets and dogs for engagement session is a good idea!
If you have pet, like a dog, and want to include it, your are more than welcome to bring it/her/him! may not do all pictures with him, but it could be funny! Animal, likes kids, carry something fresh and authentic!
Other animals that would bring a touch of life in your engagement session
If lot of people include their dog, they are not the only animal that work great. In fact, almost all animals would works great in pictures. It’s about interaction of your coule and animal. Therefor all mammal would be a good idea. Let’s think about including a horse (especially is you to ride horse), or some more “funny” animal like a Llama, Monkey, or Parrot.
Include Vehicle in your picture
More than the only beauty of the mechanical object, the idea is to create a context, a story about you. You are bikers and like the liberty, or you love to enjoy the afternoon taking the sun and drinking cocktail on your Yatch. This part may be quite similar to the list of location ideas for your session.
Cars and Bikes
Those are the two kinds of vehicles that typically works well for pictures and are easy to include. We won’t do all the session with those, but they usually help us in the back ground and tell a little about you. So if you have a nice sports car (like a Corvette), or antique car, or a nice bike (like Harley Davidson), bring them!
Other Vehicles That Walks for Engagement Session
I guess the only limit is your imagination. Let think about:
- Small Airplane
- Air ballon (I would love that!)
- Paraglider, hang-gliding
- Traditional boat like wood Yatch or sailboat.
- Funny way of transport on water, like pedal boat, canoe, rowboat
- Truck and Bus
- Trailer (specially the silver trailer home)
- Bicycle and other funny bike engine
- Trains and Tram
Pratical question about engagement session
Do You need a make-up artist and go to the hairdresser
No rule. I now strongly recommend you to go to a good hair stylist. Don’t but 1 pound of gel in your hair! Your hair have to stay smooth and natural. They need to move in the wind. I don’t want you to have a Stormtrooper hamlet on your head! 😀
The common mistake : fixe one part of your hair with gel, and have the other part of your hair moving freely.
Makeup artist and hairdresser can really change a face (for the best with a professional or the worst if you are not used too).
But here again there is no rule. You decide what you want, what you feel more comfortable with.
Most of Some experimented girls can easily do their makeup by themselves (when it’s a light and easy one). If you have a good hairdresser you love (and trust), it could be a good opportunity to go. A good idea could be to test your makeup artist and hairdresser in the morning, and keep it during the afternoon for the photo session!
The common mistake : don’t put to much make up (photography is not theater). If you have to much make up that will be even more obvious in the pictures. If you put some fondation on your face, don’t forgent you neck.
Don’t experiment the day of the photos session
You want to be perfect for your engagement session, and you will try a new tutorial you have seen somewhere. Don’t. If it’s not well done, it can be a disaster. It’s better to have simple light make-up that you handle than a complicated one that will ruin everything.
Of course you can test your make-up before your engagement session.
What is a good make-up for an engagement session
By advance, I apology if my words of French engagement photographer could hurt some feelings. You know that French people say what they think, and the goal here is to have better pictures. So good make-up is a make-up you don’t notice! All is said! I see every often some technic where you make some part of your face brighter (like the nose), and some part darker (like the side of the nose). Let’s be clear. If it’s not well handled and the contrast between light and dark colors are too important, you will just look super weird (not to say ridiculous). Those technic a difficult and require subtly. The goal of a good make-up is to maximise your natural beauty, not that we can see that you have make-up. More is not better! What light to use to make up and how to test it to make sure it will work great in pictures. This tip will also apply for your wedding. You need to have your make-up done under the same light where the pictures will be done. To make it simple, you have two kinds of light, natural (mostly blue), and artificial (mostly yellow). The way our brain sees the colors will change regarding the light. For instance, look at your car during the day, and during the night. Do you see that during the day the color is great and during the night, under artificial light everything does not look as good? Therefore, the same make-up could look great under artificial yellow light, and look terrible in natural light!
How to test your make-up with a picture
Go under the light you plan to have your picture taken. Face the light. Take a selfie. Does everything looks good? Push the contest of your picture. Does everything still look good? If the answer is no, then you went too far with make-up?
Clean your engagement ring
It’s a tiny details, but I will probably do some close-up pictures of your ring. So, If you were it every day, you may want to clean it before the session. And if I forget to take your ring in pictures tell me! (Sometimes I am so much in making you fill at your ease that I forget the ring!)
Share an activity you like
The thing I try the most to capture during engagement session is complicity. Complicity is what makes the based on which is built love : without complicity, there is no love.
My way of catching complicity is by creating a situation where it can happen. I ask you to do things, to share moments together. So if there is an activity you love to share together it could be a very good idea for your engagement photo session.
Of course all activity won’t necessarily work in pictures, but tell me and let see what we can figure.
Share a drink
Bring something you want to drink. A fancy bottle of beer, or more classical a bottle of champagne. What’s more, alcohol may help you to be more relaxed. Indeed it’s a good uninhibited, also it’s not rare to see models drinks some champagne (with moderation) during some photo shoot.
If you don’t drink alcohol, you still have lots of choice. Again, here the idea is to create a story, a moment that your share together!